I am 64 years old and I have been in love with the same man for the past 50 years. We got through those messy years one day at a time and I am so glad we did. We now have the privilege of having what I refer to as old love. We have a history together. A history and familiarity that brings comfort. A comfort that comes from knowing that this person has stood beside you in spite of the messy years; in spite of those times when you know you weren’t the best version of yourself. Comfort in knowing you are truly loved for who you are. The good, the bad and the ugly.
Old love is the reward for getting through those messy years and I am here to tell you that it is worth it. Old love isn’t something you should take for granted, it is something you should acknowledge and be thankful for. Something you should cherish. So how do you get through the messy years? I have a couple tips that were handed down to me and I believe they can make all the difference in a relationship.
My mother told me once that, "If we worked half as hard on the marriage that we have, as we would have to work to find a different spouse, we wouldn’t have to.” Everything that is worth having is worth working for. Trust me, old love is worth the work.
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I wrote a book! It’s all about overcoming the fear deep inside of us, yet as we announced the book's release, I found myself once again paralyzed with fear. Every part of me wanted to yell. "JUST KIDDING!"
It’s funny how you can think that you have wiped fear from your life and then something happens, and you once again find yourself consumed with it. I don’t believe that we can ever wipe fear completely out of our lives, but we can learn tools to overcome it and move forward. I had to remind myself why I wrote the book in the first place. The reason? Because God told me to. I didn’t write it because I imagined myself being a great author with great insight that the world needed to hear. I wrote it because of one simple song. Blessed Assurance. I remember my mother singing this song and the words… "This is my story, this is my song. Praising my Savior, all the day long." God has given me a story. He gives each of us a story. Our story is for a reason. It’s to share and encourage others. I think that is the one message that we often overlook in the Bible. It is the story of ordinary people sharing their story. Stories that have encouraged generations. Years ago, I set out to meet up with Facebook friends that I have never had a one on one with before. Each one that I met I asked one simple question. What is your story? I found it interesting that not one of them hesitated. They knew what I meant, and they proceeded to share it with me. Stories of pain, joy and hope. Do you know your story? Have you shared it with someone? You don’t have to write a book, but your story is for a reason. It is our job to find that reason and then to act accordingly. |